Excitement for the holidays can be clouded by the fear or anxiety of upcoming social interactions. People who need to recharge after social settings may especially struggle this busy time of year.
The social intensity of holiday parties, events, and even holiday shopping can drain even the most extroverted people.
Use these 6 tips to help unwind and relax in social settings, even if you’re an introvert!
#1 Accept That You’re Feeling Anxious
The worst thing that you can do when you’re feeling social anxiety is to become frustrated or try to completely ignore it.
If you’re hard on yourself it will only make the situation more difficult, the best thing you can do is to accept and face your feelings without judgement.
Once you’re on your own team you can start implementing these strategies to cope!
#2 Remind Yourself It Is Okay to Leave
The goal, of course, is not to leave. You want to enjoy yourself, that’s why you’re reading this post!
However, if you remind yourself that it is okay to leave, it will take the pressure off of you and you can feel more relaxed.
Once you release any feelings of being trapped or stuck in an uncomfortable situation, you can start to relac
#3 Challenge Your Thoughts
Now that you have accepted your thoughts and feelings, you can start to challenge the anxious thoughts that are floating in your head.
Ask yourself why you’re having these thoughts. Did anyone say anything to you to make you think this way or are your insecurities taking over?
These conversations can be hard, but are necessary to relax in social situations.
Try to reframe your negative thoughts into a positive mindset.
I don’t know anyone in here, I’m so awkward!
Can be reframed as:
I wonder what kind of friends I will make tonight!
#4 Focus on the Environment Around You
It’s time to get out of your own head!
Start by paying attention to what people are saying to you and really observing the environment you’re in.
When you’re busy in conversation and using your senses to explore the social setting, your anxious thoughts will settle!
#5 Practice Deep Breathing Exercises
Deep breathing is something we hear a lot, but not all of us actually practice it.
Taking deep breaths and focusing on your breathing can help settle your nervous system and help you relax in social situations.
You’ll want to focus on your breath by counting to 4, 5, 6, and then 7 as you inhale and exhale. Getting your breaths deeper and deeper until you feel a release of tension in your body!
You can always try it out right now!
#6 Take Breaks
It’s okay to take breaks from large crowds or even step outside!
Becoming overwhelmed in a social situation doesn’t mean you have to leave and go home.
First, try to take a break and ease yourself back into the social setting. Be gentle with yourself! A quick break here and there to practice your breathing exercises may be all you need!
And always remember, you can leave if you need to!
